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Define Love Project 2017 || Day 15: Body Positivity

I think my most favorite trend that has been going around the social media world is body positivity.

Just the general idea that if you are alive you are beautiful head to toe! You a an amazing & unique creation, and you don’t need anyone to tell you so.

I’ve always had insecurities about my body, as everyone does. Being Filipino, I always have Tita’s commenting on my body when I gain weight. They don’t mean to be hurtful, but not only does it bring my self esteem down, its freaking annoying. I think the worst thing was when I came back from the Philippines and one of my friends mom told me, “Oh! What happened to your sexy body?!”

Like, c’mon tita, it’s still here.

I used to hate a lot of things about my body. Stretch marks, my smile, my hands, ect. Then I realized that this is me! Its my smile & hands & marks that make me… me! Why spend time bringing myself down? I can work out & take care of my body of course, but I don’t need to be upset about things I can’t change about my body.

Gotta love the body I got.

Peace & Love,

Riza

Define Love Project 2017 || Day 13: Galentines

Happy Galentines day!!!

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I’m not around my gal pals right now, long distance relationships suck. Nevertheless, today is the day I share about how much I love my GALS & PALS. (Pals are guy-friends that I am also in love with.)

I’m not going to tell you WHO EXACTLY these people are, but I’ll just let you know that I love them. I even have a pact with one of them that we’d get married if we aren’t married by 40. One of those kinda friends.

I’ve always spoiled my friends. Once I started getting a paycheck, I always bought presents every Christmas for every person in this close group of friends. Sometimes I get specific presents for people, one friend I have gets a new vinyl every Valentines Day… because I love them.

These are the people whose children will be calling me Auntie. The people I make pacts with, and plan on traveling the world with. Their love fullfills the love I don’t get from being in a relationship… (How lonely does that make me sound??? very.)

I JUST HAVE SO MUCH LOVE TO GIVE!!!!

I can’t really share much without giving away who these people are, but I am honestly & truly in love with them. The loves of my life forever. Its awesome being able to have these people to go to when things in my life go wrong. There’s nothing like being in major friend-love.

P.S. I strive to be the Leslie Knope of my friend group.

Peace & Love,

Riza

 

Define Love Project || Day 12: Feeling Better

FINALLY.

I have FINALLY figured out how to make myself feel better when I’m deep into my sadness or depression. Obviously not right away, but honestly some of my tactics are laughable. Finding out what to do when I’m feeling anxious, sad, depressed, angry, ect. was probably the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Some of these things I learned from friends, family members, or just by being by myself and trying my best just to get that negativity out of my mind. Here are some things that I do to make myself happy, or to outlet negativity:

  1. Listening to music:

I used music to express how I feel. Whether its the lyrics or the progressions, the samples of sound or the strength of a voice… when I find music that I can relate to, I make sure to save it under a playlist for that emotion. I love finding new music and creating playlists that make me feel a certain way.

2. Singing

I recently just got a new car, well… an old-new car. The radio doesn’t work, and even though I have CD’s I can’t use them. So I just sing by myself in the car. In my old car I would play playlists that I made specifically to scream loudly while driving. Same thing for my shower. I’ve always loved to sing, and now I can use it to make me feel better. Recently my go-to singing-in-the-car artist is The Beatles. I scream Happiness Is a Warm Gun all the time.

3. Stand Up Comedy

One of my friends got me into stand up comedy recently. (You know who you are, and I don’t know if you even read these, but you have no idea how much it’s helped me. So thank you for that.) I love stand up comedy now. I listen to it at work, in the car, and I watch specials all the time when I’m at home. Its really hard to be sad when Bill Burr is screaming about thinning the population & supporting swine flu, or when Joe Rogan talks about how the Kardashians are actually demons. (I like dark humor, sorry) Plus, laughter really is the best medicine. I love to laugh.

4. Face masks, oils, & taking care of my skin.

I used to have really problematic skin when I was younger. I don’t really have that problem anymore, even though I didn’t take care of my skin for a long time. I recently started learning more about using natural cleansers and essential oils to take care of my skin, and I’m telling you that stuff works. It makes me feel better when I’m more mindful of how I take care of myself. Now all of my cleansers are organic, and I use face masks regularly. It’s awesome.

There are so many more things that I’ve learned, but I don’t feel like typing them all out right now. Taking care of myself and learning how to make myself feel better has made me more relaxed and content with things that go on in my life. Know yourself, I highly recommend it.

Peace & Love,

Riza

 

Define Love Project 2017 || Day 11: Family

I love my family.

My messy, confusing, loving, caring, crazy family.

They support & love me whether or not they approve of what I’m doing. They try to understand when I can’t explain how I feel. When I’m feeling down they always are there to pick me up, regardless of my endless stupidity & imperfection.

That’s the cool thing about family, at least in my situation. I’ve learned to be more understanding, and try to break down the reasons why my family reacts to the things I do. I’ve gained more patience for them, and have been continuously learning how to be unapologetic when expressing how I feel.

No matter where I go, or what I do, I know my family is there to take me in when I have nowhere else to turn to.

Peace & Love,

Riza

Define Love Project 2017 || Day 10: Dream Size

When I was in middle school, I planned out my entire high school career. The summer after 8th grade I took a summer class (by choice) so by the time I was a senior I would have completed all the health science courses, including the technical ones. I remember getting that course sheet plan in middle school, and my goal was to graduate high school with a CNA license and work as a CNA while I was in college. I executed every class since then, got great grades, and even planned to become an officer of the health science club (I was the president my senior year). All my plans had fallen into place and I was doing great.

The only problem is, I didn’t plan on changing my mind.

I had all of this set up, I thought I knew what I wanted…. and then I realized that I didn’t even want to be a nurse. After doing the clinical rotations and following doctors and nurses around, I couldn’t do that for too long… I would get so tired of it. Because who knows me better than myself?

Now I’m here, trying to figure out what I want to go to school for and what I want to do. I’ve developed dreams and ideas that I want to pan out so badly. Some of them are big, others are small, but each deserved their own love and attention.

I have big dreams of business running around in my brain. Working with a small business in their main office made me think, “I could totally do that.” Obviously dreams like that take lots of time, planning, and money, but for those things to happen I have to work hard now.

But, there are things that I want that aren’t so out of reach…

For example: I really want a pug. Like, how cute are those little guys? They all have their own personalities, with their smushed faces and weird barking. Whats not to love?

When I need inspiration to keep working hard and saving money, I’ll think to myself,

“Hey, if I don’t work hard now… how am I going to provide for my future pug!?”

These dreams of business and pug ownership are definitely not on the same level, but they both need to be worked for. I can dream about my future apartment (& I already know EXACTLY how I want it to be…) but if I keep dreaming about it, it’ll just stay a dream! The way I think about it is, no matter the dream, big or small, each day you have to work hard and work on yourself in order for those dreams to EVER become a reality.

My love for myself and the measures I take to care for my mental hygiene was not something that just kind of popped up in my mind to do. Taking each day one step at a time, I’ve realized that I’ve grown so much already just this past year!

So, what I’m saying is… I need to work hard  because I love and care about myself. I can do it! I can make it happen! I WILL have a pug in the future! I WILL save money, work hard, and finally have my own place to start my vinyl collection. Everything will fall into place if I strive for it to.

Peace & Love,

Riza

 

Define Love Project 2017 || Day 8: Enjoy The Ride

Everything happens for a reason.

That is something I’ve been told countless times. Never did I think that the things I went to were connected to the growth I have experienced now. I remember things that happened to me as a kid, my thoughts and dreams. These dreams are slowly coming to a reality, and I didn’t notice that the heartache and struggle that I go through now will create a better version of me in the future.

I am here, living in California. Making music, meeting amazing people, and learning more about myself everyday. Thoughts of the past and the future have rattled around in my brain for months. What’s going to happen? Why did that happen? It doesn’t matter, it already did.

Dreams and goals are so quick to excite us that we fall in love with that idea of the end goal. Each day you are going through things to reach your goal, the way that you pursue and fight through each struggle will determine how you will grow. Eventually, the person you wanted to become will blossom, but that will only happen if you carefully take care of the person you are each day. And what freedom & happiness that will bring you.

Focusing on the moment, enjoying it with every fiber in my being, and working hard to take another step up to my end goal… that’s how I will know my own definition of success, happiness, and love.

Peace & Love,

Riza

 

Define Love Project 2017 || Day 5: You’re Talking A Lot, But I Like It…

As I have gotten older, my tolerance for people has shrunk. I usually have to be the one to initiate conversations and such, which gets boring after a while. It’s come to the point that now I try not to talk too much to new people. My social life is very weird these days…

Although, I do have a couple of friends that I talk to regularly, and those are the people I know that usually talk more than me. Which I absolutely adore. I love it when one of my friends gets really excited about something that they’re going to do, or when they go on and on about a topic they really like to talk about. Sometimes, I don’t even have to talk. They’ll just talk and talk about something, anything.

These are the friends I learn cool things from, and the people I like to spend the most time with if possible. It makes my heart happy to see their smile light up when they’re excited to tell me something. It always makes me that more eager to hear what they have to say.

Or maybe I just like seeing my friends smile… 🙂

Peace & Love,
Riza.