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Define Love Project 2017 || Day 13: Galentines

Happy Galentines day!!!

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I’m not around my gal pals right now, long distance relationships suck. Nevertheless, today is the day I share about how much I love my GALS & PALS. (Pals are guy-friends that I am also in love with.)

I’m not going to tell you WHO EXACTLY these people are, but I’ll just let you know that I love them. I even have a pact with one of them that we’d get married if we aren’t married by 40. One of those kinda friends.

I’ve always spoiled my friends. Once I started getting a paycheck, I always bought presents every Christmas for every person in this close group of friends. Sometimes I get specific presents for people, one friend I have gets a new vinyl every Valentines Day… because I love them.

These are the people whose children will be calling me Auntie. The people I make pacts with, and plan on traveling the world with. Their love fullfills the love I don’t get from being in a relationship… (How lonely does that make me sound??? very.)

I JUST HAVE SO MUCH LOVE TO GIVE!!!!

I can’t really share much without giving away who these people are, but I am honestly & truly in love with them. The loves of my life forever. Its awesome being able to have these people to go to when things in my life go wrong. There’s nothing like being in major friend-love.

P.S. I strive to be the Leslie Knope of my friend group.

Peace & Love,

Riza

 

Define Love Project 2017 || Day 2: Trial & Error

Heartbreak sucks, pain sucks.

But, it’s a part of life.

And also a sign that you are living.

Relationships and friendships come and go, and whether they end on good terms or not we always relate the end as something negative. I personally have a fear of losing people, which is something I’m slowly getting over. On yesterday’s post I talked about the changes we go through as we grow, and that knowing when to cut relationships loose is a sign of love.

Love is a complicated feeling; it can make you happy or totally destroy you emotionally. It’s love to want to keep friends around, its love to be heartbroken when someone leaves you. When things are changing and people leave our lives, it’s our job to take something out of those relationships.

We constantly regret relationships that end, blaming ourselves for being dumb and careless. How could let this happen? What did  do wrong? When in reality, we do not control the way others think, or the actions that they do to hurt us. We may have given more love, or given less love, than the other person. Sometimes things don’t work out, but everything happens for a reason.

I strive to not regret the things that I’ve done or the relationships that have fallen through. Every relationship is a trial & error, maybe I gave more, maybe I didn’t give enough. I learn what I want or what I need to change after each ended relationship or friendship, and then my standards go up. If I have deep feelings for someone I know that if there is another person, they have to make me feel something similar or more; even when I thought it couldn’t get better.

I’m allowing myself to be happy, whether things work out or not in the future. I’ve learned from someone that it’s better to enjoy the moment now than worry about what the future of that friendship or relationships holds. I’m happy that I have been letting myself be happy, there is no need to put myself through anymore pain.

It’s all a process of trial and error.

Peace & Love,

Riza

 

Tre Nesbit: Rap-Poet

Music is poetry, no doubt about it. Meeting an artist like Tre was such an inspirational experience. Rapping at open mics and other events, Tre Nesbit has a the unique capability to capture an audience with his music. I’m telling you, he’s gonna get big.

I met Tre at an open mic, the lyrics in his verses are what drew me towards him. Talking about personal topics, love, social issues, and so on, Tre was a perfect canidate to interview for the Define Love Project.

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Hi Tre! How are you?

What is your artistic medium?

Predominantly music, but really within that it’s the lyric. In my medium it especially is the lyric. It’s poetry, story-telling, and couple that with rap verses, of course, beats, music, melody, choruses. I used to be a scrap artist. I used to make cards, scrapbook, and little paper peices of layered papers and images. That kind of bled over into when I started doing music, theres an element of putting a lot of different elements together. This little thing here, this little sound there, and kind of mixing that all up. 

 

So what made you start turning your writing into music? 

Well, it was right here at The Night Owl. The first time I did it was in high school. I’ve always been a poet, I’ve been a poet since, like, 3rd grade doing kid shit, my whole life. In high school I started writing rhymes, and I was too nervous about what people would think. So I put it on the back burner and forgot about it. What really made me start to focus on it was when I was passing by Night Owl, leaving downtown Fullerton, and I saw my friend Doris, she was in line. I was like, “Aye! Yo! What are you in line for?” And she was like, “Oh, I’m signing up for the open mic!” And I was like, oh hell yeah! I’m signing up! At that point, every now and then, I would just do spoken word. Just read a poem. So, that night I did a poem, and Arthur, who was the host at the time, let me do it but he told me, ” Hey Tuesday nights is only music, so if you come back you have to have a song.” So, the next week I had a song. Every week after that I tried to have a new song, or a new verse. That’s when it really catapulted. Just over a year ago, really honing in on it and deciding this is what I’m gonna do… This is what I HAVE to do to feel good, to heal and feel great. 

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What’s your inspiration? What motivates your art? 

It can come from a number of places, a lot of times it’s when I feel like I have to. The expressions in there, a lot of the time I feel like a song is in my brain. It’s just like tapping, and it goes “I need to be written!” They have their own personalities! They’re in there and they’re like WRITE ME! IT’S TIME. I get inspired by the smallest things. It could be the smallest things. I love talking to new people. I love just making great coversations, because certain verbage and topics, certain objectcs or nouns, just phrases, will just work their way into the raps. I never would have expected or anticipated, I didn’t pinpoint that from the conversation. I didn’t say “Oh, I’m gonna put that in a rap!” I just start rapping and then that word I just happend to learn in a coversation from the day before finds its way in. Definitely inspired by love. I write a lot about love, sex, and relationships. Although, lately I’ve been turning away from that and going inward and writing about inner demons and the overcoming of the self. Looking at yourself in the mirror, and just dealing with yourself. It really could be the biggest thing or the smallest thing, but mostly, like, the need to. The main motivation is the inner peace that comes after I finish a song, and the healing that comes from it. I think I had to find that as the movtivater. The main motivation. Before it was attached with ego, with chasing some dream of being an artist, or the ego of performing and the applause! It’s fine to like all those things, but now it really comes down for healing, healing for others, and just sharing. 

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When it comes to loving yourself, how do you practice that?

Forgiveness. I practice loving myself in a number of ways. I would say the first is forgiveness. Having the strength to not beat yourself up over bad decisions and mistakes. Like, kind of looking at yourself in the mirror and being like, “Hey, you fucked up, its okay. All you can choose to do from here on out is to choose be better, and choose to live in a different way or make better decisions. So, definitely forgiving myself. Self love, making time for myself. Really owning alone time, and honoring alone time. That means, cutting off social media, putting my phone on airplane mode and really letting myself get into my thoughts. Going somewhere alone, going to the movies alone, going to the park alone, and just really getting in touch with whats going on. And celebrating! Like, I celebrate myself! I feel like theres nothing wrong with celebrating youself! I look at my accomplishments, and theres a level of staying humble. You look at what you’ve done, and you’re like “Hey! That was a great song!” or “that was a great peice of work!” Be empowered. A couple months ago I thought, I’m gonna start celebrating myself with jewelry! I hadn’t worn jewelry, I hadn’t worn anything. It was time to adorn myself. So I showed myself self love by, they were pretty cheap, getting myself a few rings, popped in some earrings! And, I don’t know, theres was something about rings, like it ws time to decorate myself again. So therewas self love in decorating myself and adorning myself. Telling myself I’m worthy of these nice little jewelry peices. And then, of course, by loving others. When you love someone else. I’ve learned the most this past year in my friendships and my relationships that I have in my life, definitely, there is an element of loving yourself from loving others. You give and give and give, then someones gonna give something back to you that you didn’t know you needed. That just heals a part of you, and you just learn something, but, yeah, self love by loving others. Showing true love to others, and also demanding respect for yourself is a way of showing self love. Kind of putting boudaries of what you will accept as a person, thats a form of self love. I could go on and on!

Where do you find love outside of yourself?

Definitely in my friends. I find it in strangers! Just being outwardly kind, and recieving kindness back. That’s love! That’s fullfilling. I find it in nature. I think people underestimate the love you can find in nature. Love the earth and the earth will love you. In any one and any thing. Love can pop up anywhere, you have to actively be putting love in your environment and then it will find you! I think I’ve learned that. I think it comes to me all the time! In unexpected ways, from people I don’t even know or didn’t expect. I think it depends on how you define love, when you’re open to more forms of it there are subtle ways people show it. You really appreciate those subtle moments. 

How do you define love?

I have this thing where I kind of like to reverse sentences or questions, and find the truth in that. At the risk of sounding so pretentious, I would say that I let love define me. I let it find me, and I really let it define ME in how I choose to give and show love, who I give love to, and the type of love I accept. With love I like to couple the word respect. Love and respect. Even the way people love you might not be in a respectful way. So I would say I am defined by the love I give and the love I recieve, and the love I allow myself to give and recieve. How and who I give it to, and how and who I recieve it from. It changed my morals and my temperment. Its almost like when you hear and AMAZING song, and there’s one part that really ramps you up. You can’t put your finger on why it makes you feel that way, it just makes you feel great! Thats love. There’s no exact word for it. 

 

Thank you so much to Tre for letting us do the interview! Right after the last question, we got into talking about how AMAZING the album Miseducation of Lauryn Hill is. I’m glad someone gets me.

You can check out Tre’s soundcloud here and his Instagram here ! Make sure you give him a look, he’s such a talent rapper and will DEFINITELY be changing up the game soon!

I hope you enjoyed this interview! Thanks for checking it out! 🙂

Peace & Love,

Clariza 🙂

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For the Love of Music: Friend Favorites

Hey guys! So, we have started a new series we like to call “For the love of Music”. This series if all about music, maybe concert updates, musicians, playlists/ mixtapes that we make for you guys. This FTLOM post is called “Friend Favorites”, where we ask some of our friends what their favorie songs are and why! Here’s what they said:

 

“What is your favorite love song and why?”

 

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Paula: Helplessly by Tatiana Manaois

 

“So I’ve been holding answering this question off since you asked me a couple of days ago, cause I couldn’t think of a top favorite love song because all I listen to ever is sad love songs. But I guess I’m gonna go with Helplessly by Tatiana Manaois. This song can either make me feel the happiest, or it can make me feel completely heartbroken. I relate to this song so much because Tatiana talks about this person that she’s falling for but they’re not together, because they keep “playing games” or she feels like their non-relationship relationship isn’t going anywhere. It’s like a one way relationship, and she knows she should leave but she feels like there’s still a chance with that person or that no matter how much you try to not like that person, you can’t help but just fall for them. I feel like this song is a representation of hope and chance of having that one person you’ve helplessly fallen for will finally feel the same for you. Or it could be the complete opposite, that you know that it’s time to let go of that person who will never be ready for you.”

 

Anonymous Friend: Too Long by Tennyson

“This song was sent to me last year from my best-friend at the time. We both met the “right person at the wrong time”, needless to say. We both liked each other, but we didn’t want to do anything on impulse, so we remained best friends. As far as the story, and the song. We aren’t best-friends anymore. Because things changed and so did we”

 

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Jordyn: How Love’s Made by Jaime Woods

“How Love’s Made speaks of the old time love that every relationship and partnership strives for – the love that has grown deeper and deeper with many years together. It includes my favorite love song lyric: “I’ve found a love to outrun the sky when you put your heart next to mine.” This song reminds me of the love of my life and the sweet, understanding, patient love we have grown to provide for each other. With that true love, you can outrun the sky and get through any obstacle.”

 

 

 

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“Baby I’m Yours by Arctic Monkeys cause it’s fucking lit and chill and I just love the vibes it gives off and it’s just very relaxing and sweet and everything about it makes me feel like love is eternal and endless and everything good in this world and its true, I’m probs gonna be Clara’s forever :)”

 

 

 

 

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Clara: Our Day Will Come by Amy Winehouse

“Oh definitely Our Day Will Come( the Amy Winehouse version). It’s a really short but lovely song. It talks about how even though the odds may be against the two lovers at the present time, everything will fall into place in the end because of their love and affection for each other. And I’ve just always loved the idea that love can and will withstand anything”

 

 

 

 

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Kiana: Can’t Help Falling in Love with You by Elvis Presley

“I think my favorite love song would have to be Can’t Help Falling in Love with you by Elvis Presley. When I was little my dad used to sing this song to me on his old guitar. He would use his best Elvis voice and put a dash of his own style in it too. I loved listening and watching him sing. A few months ago he sang that song that same way for the first time in years and it made me so happy. It made me think of how most people relate this song to their boyfriend/girlfriend but for me I feel like my dad was always trying to tell me that he really could not help falling in love with me. Im his little girl and he’ll love me no matter what. He’s shown me what love looks like and when I’m with someone it should feel like that. It should feel like endless,continuous love. That’s another thing that love is. Love is when you just can’t help loving that person.”

 

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Jeremy: In The Name of Love by Martin Garrix and Bebe Rexah

“For me, “In the name of love” by Martin Garrix & Bebe Rexha, is my favorite love song right now. The whole point of the song is about wanting to see if someone will stick it out with you, validation of love, trusting in love, and most of all, knowing that love is pure and worth it all in the end.Theres a line that really sticks out and its “I wanna testify, scream in the holy light, you bring me back to life, and it’s all in the name of love”.. like for me, its basically saying that this love is a religion, through all the hardships and struggles, its still worth it.”

 

 

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Clariza: Can’t Take My Eyes Off of You by Lauryn Hill

“This is whole album is very near and dear to my heart, but this song specifically has its own half. Its funky, fun, and honest, this version is so different from the original. I love this song with all my heart. When I first met the man I’m in a relationship with now, we went to a hookah bar and this song played. I sang along with it. I even danced (note: I am a terrible dancer), this album helped me find my confidence in my silliness and my voice. It was introduced to me my sophmrore year in high school by another guy I had feelings for at the time, but I feel like this song has grown with me. The more I listen to it, the more I can feel it in my soul. There’s just something about it that gets me.” 

 

 

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Zariya: If I should Die Tonight by Marvin Gaye

“My favorite love song is “if I should die tonight” by Marvin Gaye. it’s so smooth and sexy, but also so pure in the way that it depicts a man so in love that he is no longer afraid of death because he at least has had the chance to live, breathe, and exist beside his lover. That’s love in its truest form.”

 

 

 

 

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Ral: Adorn by Miguel

“Ok soooo. Adorn by Miguel is one of my favorite love songs out there if not my favorite because of MULTIPLE REASONS. The first one being that I was introduced to this song through a choreo video by the one and only Andre Baterina. LOOOORD I loved the choreo so much and I still do. I remember watching the choreo video during the peak height of my tumblr days. I’m talking about hypebeast fashion, Diamond, obey, hypebeast dance videos, obsession with owning a DSLR and attempting to take pictures solely for the improvement of your tumblr game and fuckyeahsexyasians HAHAHAHAHAHA FUCK…well yeah. In the video, Andrew Baterina is sporting a SnapBack and a dress shirt with a bow tie (bow ties were prevalent within the tumblr hypebeast community…I’m sure you remember) and a khaki jacket and I was just like WOW. I LOVE THIS. I remember wanting to learn the choreo but it was always too hard for me so I decided to have my own take on it. I performed it during my first Diversity Night at my high school and it took my whole social life and popularity to whole other level. I made so many friends I still keep in touch every now and then and made the lasting impression during the rest of my high school years as the school’s best dancer HAHAHA. Another reason why I love this song so much is because I associated the song with the feelings I had for this girl. The song felt like the manifestation of the burning sensation I had for this girl whenever I saw her smile, saw her through the hallways, whenever we talked etc etc. Miguel made it possible with Adorn to put my feelings into a picture in my head where I’m like dancing in front of her or something HAHAHA. I really liked this girl. LIKE. I REALLYYYYY LIKED THIS GIRL. And just the lyrics really hit home when he goes “LET MY LOVE ADORN YOUUUU” cause you know. That’s what I wanna doooooo. Or like. That’s what I wanted to do. The feelings weren’t reciprocated but the song wasn’t ruined or anything. If anything, the song reminds me of how sprung I was and how much I really cared for this person and it’s just like a rush of feelings and nostalgic memories that I could relive and not want it to change anyway or any how. LIKE YOOOOOO. This girl yooooo. She’s one of the first people that got me sooooo so sprung like. LIKE SERIOUSLY SPRUNG. LIKE PLS LET ME HAVE A CHANCE WITH HER AND ILL BE SO GOOD TO HER AND ALL THAT. She was Muslim and so like I was even willing to give up pork and bacon which is you knoooow, a staple meat in a Filipino household/culture. So yeah HAHAHA. I love this song so much cause I don’t feel that way anymore. Or like. I don’t get that sprung as much anymore. And that sucks. Cause having someone you passionately like like that is a totally overwhelming and otherworldly feeling. And Adorn really just brings me back to that young Ral who was happier and who had this softer heart and didn’t have such a hard time learning to love someone. And it was never all that shallow love either. I miss that. SO YA. That’s all.”

 

 

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Lauren: Belly of the Deepest Love by Tow’rs

“So since I’m not currently in and have never been in a romantic relationship, my favorite love song has more metaphorical and spiritual meaning to me. It’s called Belly of the Deepest Love by a small band called Tow’rs. When I first heard the song I could only catch parts and thought it was a typical guy / girl love song, some of the lines saying, “I need something to hold onto” and “oh how you wished to be with me.” But when I listened to it closely, I realized it was a love song about a man who sacrificed everything for the people he loves. A love so pure and steadfast, and a sacrifice so redeeming and complete, that the “hills trembling throats sing hallelujah.” That love is, I believe, the most inherently beautiful story that can be told, or song that can be sung. So yeah. It’s just a lovely song, and I never get tired of it. :)”

 

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Kyrie: 7 Years by Lucas Graham

“My favorite “Love Song” is 7 years By Lucas Graham. This song to me is more than just a song- this song tells a story. From a young fellow, to a adolescent man, to a middle aged man, to a very old wise man. Lucas Graham is somewhere in the age of 20-25. I haven’t really looked him up, but this is merely about the song and what it means to me. Because of this song, time is what bothers me. I could be anywhere in this world, but I ended up being here; in the navy, 2 o’clock in the morning, laying down and telling you about how I feel about this song. Because of this song, I get scared because time can’t tell how much you have left to live, when you’re going to find love, or how long love will last. Time can’t control your life. Only you can control your life. Only you can find yourself love and learn from it. “Once I was 7 years old.” We’ve lived that moment. How long do we have? What I’ve learned about the idea of this song, is to live your life to the fullest. As much as it has been said, it hasn’t really been done. We restrict ourselves from living our lives. Because we’re scared. But if you let fear control you, you won’t ever experience that specific moment. What I’ve learned from a dear beloved of mine is that love is over fear.”