Define Love Project 2017 || Day 13: Galentines

Happy Galentines day!!!


I’m not around my gal pals right now, long distance relationships suck. Nevertheless, today is the day I share about how much I love my GALS & PALS. (Pals are guy-friends that I am also in love with.)

I’m not going to tell you WHO EXACTLY these people are, but I’ll just let you know that I love them. I even have a pact with one of them that we’d get married if we aren’t married by 40. One of those kinda friends.

I’ve always spoiled my friends. Once I started getting a paycheck, I always bought presents every Christmas for every person in this close group of friends. Sometimes I get specific presents for people, one friend I have gets a new vinyl every Valentines Day… because I love them.

These are the people whose children will be calling me Auntie. The people I make pacts with, and plan on traveling the world with. Their love fullfills the love I don’t get from being in a relationship… (How lonely does that make me sound??? very.)


I can’t really share much without giving away who these people are, but I am honestly & truly in love with them. The loves of my life forever. Its awesome being able to have these people to go to when things in my life go wrong. There’s nothing like being in major friend-love.

P.S. I strive to be the Leslie Knope of my friend group.

Peace & Love,



Update: We now have a book about romantic love!

Hello loves, it’s Clariza!

I apologize for not being active these past months, I have much planned for the Define Love Project! I’ve been working on my own heart & life, which both desperately needed a little more TLC. Now that I’ve taken care of that, it’s time to talk some more about love! This is definitely something that I’ve been needed to put into my life again, and I would love you guys to join me on this journey into 2017! Be prepared for more interviews, talks, features, music, videos, and, last but not least, LOVE!

To kick off the new year, I’ve created a little book called My Love My Dear: The Diary of a Hopeless Romantic ! This book is filled with song lyrics, poems, and entries from my personal journals that I have collected for the past two years. It felt like such a good release to have other people read these words! If you would like a copy yourself, just send me a message and I will get with you right away! They are $5, for shipping & printing.

Thank you to those who are in support of this project! I appreciate you dearly, and I hope to give you much more content as the new year comes along.



Love in a Coffee Shop


The past couple of days I have been going to a new coffee shop each day. Even now, at 9pm, I am writing in a coffee shop about going to a coffee shop. Places like cafes have a lot of foot traffic, people coming in to write, read, drink coffee with friends, or even just zipping through to get their caffeine fix. The possibilities of people that you will meet are endless…but sometimes you’d be surprised what little things can bring the right people together.

I decided to go visit a café that I have never been to before called The Gypsy Den. The amazing vibe of this coffee shop cannot be compared to any other. There are a lot of different kinds of people that go through this place, it’s inside an “anti-mall” so there are many people from different walks of life coming through. As I sat down and got my laptop out, I couldn’t help but hear the man and woman next to me speaking so vibrantly in a different language. I was curious to know what they were speaking, but I kept my thoughts to myself in fear that I may offend them by asking.

They left for a second, and the woman asked politely if I could watch her things while she went somewhere. I happily said yes and continued to do my work on my laptop. She asked me again a few times, and I always said yes. Once it was my turn to leave, my curiosity took hold of me and I asked

  “What language were you speaking earlier? I’m sorry, I’m just so curious!”

She replied that the language was Farsi, I complimented her and we talked about how animated different languages are. And just like that, I had made a new friend.

Her smile was so vibrant and happy, I felt so comfortable talking to her. She told me that they were looking at poems by Rumi, an old poet that love to talk about love. This intrigued me, so I told her about the Define Love Project… and asked her opinion about love.

She would then become my first interview for the Define Love Project…

   “So, how do you define love?”

     “I think love… love is something- actually, love is everything. It means, actually, oneness, and passion, and unity. We only need love in this world. We don’t have it right now, and if we try to be united and feel each other’s feelings, and what we think- We can accept each other. I think this is very important: we accept each other’s opinions, each other’s religion, and each other’s beliefs. This is very important. If we do this, love will appear in this world.”

    “In the Tao Te Ching it says that ‘love is greater than fear’, what do you think about that?”

     “I think love is not opposite of hate, love is opposite of fear. If we have fear, there is no love. Fear is something that follows ego, when we follow our ego we follow fear. This is the opposite of love. This is something that, unfortunately, is in the world. It is spreading in our world right now. There is fear everywhere, and when fear is everywhere there is no love. We have to understand this, we have to understand our fears and where they come from, and then stop it. Don’t listen to it. Then love will appear in our lives.”